Recently (well, since the birth of Spencer) I've been feeling pretty inadequate as a mother. Not in a depressing way, just in a "I seriously don't know what I'm doing" way. It seems like everywhere I hear or read, there are parents who are "educating" their child by all these cool activities...creating prodigies, or at least trying to. I think to myself, "How come there isn't a place that I can learn the cool things to do with my baby? How are all THESE people 'getting it' and I'm not. I must have missed that memo."
I feel like I do the typical things...reading books, helping him build blocks, race cars, sing songs, take him on walks, let him open and close drawers in the kitchen and play with all the utensils. But all those things (and other things too) only take up about two hours of the 9+ hours I need to entertain him. I seriously start to think, "It's only 10:00 and I've used up my reserves of ideas."
I feel guilty letting him watch too many videos or being left to his own devices...don't get me wrong, I think within reason those things are good, but too much of something is not a good thing, right?
Which is why I turn to you, oh ye wise ones. I want to hear how you guys do it. So many of the people who read this blog have young kids. Can you give me some advice? I know some of you don't have kids Spencer's age, but your kids are still young. Do you remember what you did when they were littler (ya, Alicia, I know. That's not a word. haha)? Do you have a set schedule where you do certain things in an order from the time your baby wakes up? (Change diaper and clothes, then feed breakfast, etc.) Do you have a "set" time where you get "your" stuff done, and then the other time you're working with him? Or do you just kind of "wing it?"
Do you have any good games or activities that I should be doing to stimulate his mind?
We're a little worried about his communication skills right now. Most everything else is on track with his development but it's his communication that is a little slow. It's all fine because we know how he communicates with us, but the doctor wants to just make sure it's not an early indication of something else. So, we'll be going to a developmental specialist for that, which I've been told that we'll learn some activities that we can do. But why does your child have to be slow in an area to get information on things you can do?
I try and do sign language, but I'm wondering if there are more activities I should be doing. I've looked up activities online but it just gives me the same ones I'm already doing.
I just feel like I'm not giving Spencer enough to do to learn according to his abilities.
Oh and by the way, if you're asking how I did it with the girls...my answer is that I didn't! They were in daycare the first few years of their life, while I had to work. The home daycare they went to did a lot of it with them. Flashcards and the whole gambit. Ya, I feel guilty, okay? But at least they got it. hehe. Which leads to me why I don't know how to do it with Spencer.
Okay, PLEASE answer me. And if you have more to say, you all know my email or my phone number you can call from the states!